“We see each other’s humanness at the need level”¹.
— Marshal B. Rosenberg, PhD
Marshall B. Rosenberg developed the technique of Nonviolent Communication. When we live our lives most authentically, honoring one another’s feelings and needs, we can make the world a place of peace and mutual respect.
When the word “needs” comes up in conversation, many people conjure images of “neediness”, “dependency” and “selfishness”. What is intended here is a recognition of basic human needs as part of our birth right. When we honor these needs in ourselves, and one another, we can’t help but lead more powerful and connected lives. (“Needs” in this context, are similar to “personal values”, as I’ve discussed in blog entries. The subtle difference being that “needs” hit people at a more visceral level, while “values” may represent more of an “ideal”.)
What are your Top Ten “needs” from the below list that particularly resonate with you? Meaning, when you are living life from a place that feels most truly “you”, what of the below needs feel the most fulfilled? Conversely, what of these needs feel the most neglected in your day-to-day life? What’s the impact upon you of dishonoring these needs and how can you make sure they are being honored?
to know and be known
to see and be seen
to understand and
celebration of life
1 Marshall B. Rosenberg, 2005, Speak Peace in a World of Conflict, (p. 38), Encinitas, CA: PuddleDancer Press.